Thursday, May 26, 2011

Mom Passed Away

My mother passed yesterday at the age of 83.  She never recovered after breaking her hip 2 1/2 months ago.  She was not practicing in any religion, so I pray that God will watch over her.

Some people may think it in bad taste, but I have learned and am learning some interesting things about the funeral home business that I would like to share in my next few posts.

In Florida, if your loved one is going to be cremated and will not be present at a service, it is not required that they be embalmed.  Our county (and most areas) only have one facility doing the actual cremations.  All of the other funeral homes ship the deceased to this one facility, then have them shipped back.  Bypass the middle man by going directly to the facility doing the cremations to make your arrangements.

The majority of cemeteries require embalming, but there are a few in Florida that allow "natural" burials.

The most important thing you can do for yourself and you loved ones is to do the research in advance.  If I was going into this without adequate knowledge it would be a very tough time to make decisions.  Now I can make the arrangements without having to make decisions during a difficult time.

Thanks for letting me work through my grief in a way I find comforting; by writing my thoughts down.  It helps me clear my mind.

God bless,


  1. Am so sorry you lost your mom. I was blessed that mother having cancer made her own arrangements before hand. Your post will help many plan ahead and save their families a lot of stress.

  2. Pam,
    I'm so sorry for your loss. Love and prayers coming your way. Good advice about funeral homes -- we learned these lessons the hard way when my father passed.

  3. Dear Sister Pamela,
    Our deepest sympathies to you and your family during this time of your Mom's passing.

    If there is anything I can do, please don't hesitate to let me know.

    God bless and many hugs,
    Sister Penny

  4. So sorry to hear about your mother. I hope you find some peace and comfort in your family.

  5. I am so very sorry Pam, and I find your way of dealing with it to be very normal and understandable.

  6. Prayers being said for your loss. I believe that God watches over all of us, and especially those who are good people... And since your momma raised you, obviously she was a very good woman. Hang in there. My mother has refused to discuss anything she wants in regards to funeral, cremation, etc., which I find odd, since her own mother had everything taken care of years before she passed. I am hoping I can talk to my mom about her wishes soon. Thinking of you!

  7. My prayers are with you my dear sister in Jesus. May Our Lord grant you His comfort & peace especially during these days...