A contestant on the food competition/show I was watching last night made a comment about cooking that resonated with me. He said that learning to cook and being able to cook was a way that he could bless his family!
Isn't that what we are all doing when being frugal homemakers? We are working to bless our family. Our gardening and cooking blesses their bodies and general well being. Our cleaning and home repairs blesses their bodies and their feeling of emotional (and actual) safety. I could go on and on.
We work, often with few overt signs of appreciation, in our homes and on our land (such as it may be) because we want our families to be blessed with food, shelter, clothing, health, faith and emotional contentment.
During any moments of self doubt or when questioned by family and friends (out of jealousy?) feel free to tell them that your job is to be a blessing and to bless your family.